Is there sex in the afterlife? Sexuality in the Beyond.

Sex in the Afterlife?

Article by Craig Hamilton-Parker.

As you can see, even on these first levels of the afterlife, there are many things that differ from our own world. As you begin to spiritually progress, you will gradually drop many of the trappings that you once knew. For example, you may decide that eating is a waste of time, as there is no body needing fuel. Those who enjoyed good food and drink in their earthly lives may continue to indulge for a while, but eventually they will see the foolishness of this activity. Without the impulses from the physical body, there is no hunger to satisfy.

Similarly, other bodily functions will fall by the wayside. What point is there of periodically going to the bathroom in the afterlife? At first, you may continue the routine as habit but, as you acclimate to your new world, you will eventually see it as completely unnecessary, too. For some people sex may be a harder drive to let go of, as it involves psychological as well as physical drives. For many people, it may have been a very important part of their former lives, whereas others may have placed little importance upon it. In the final analysis, it is still a bodily function and may be let go of as your centre of focus moves away from the physical illusion and towards the body of light.

You will discover that there are perhaps even more satisfying ways of expressing affection. Imagine the emotional satisfaction that might come with a complete telepathic blending of thought and feeling. It may sound a little like the sex scene from the movie the “Sleeper” with Woody Allen, but spiritual “sex” is even more pleasurable as it involves the whole being. Furthermore, it is not a possessive or exclusive act, as your interactions with everyone is based upon a transmission of love and energy.

Is there sex in Heaven?

Bruce Moen and sex in the afterlife

Contemporary author Bruce Moen postulates some interesting ideas about sex in the afterlife. He pioneered a number of out-of-body travel techniques–based upon the methods of the Monroe Institute–that he claims puts him in contact with the afterlife world and other non-physical environments. During some of these journeys, he describes how he has spiritual sex with his companion Sabrina. At first their astral bonding is of the physical kind, that he knew on earth. However, it is suggested that they work with “sensing essence,” and learn to blend their astral bodies completely. They experience strange states such as leaping into flight as butterflies and mating in the form of dolphins. Eventually their light bodies intertwine as one. Moen describes it as an ecstatic experience: “We were spiraling around each other like strands of DNA. Immersed in feelings of loving acceptance as one being, we were enthralled with the dancing shades of pink, lavender, yellow, and blue swirling within us. All my internal resistance melted away in an indescribably powerful, heart charging blast of Pure Unconditional Loving Acceptance as these two beings rejoined into One.”

Unlike the accounts given by Spiritualists, Moen’s accounts are hard to qualify as they are not generally substantiated by evidential mediumship and provable fact. Nonetheless, many of his ideas correlate with the nature of the afterlife as described by earlier traditions. The truth is that we can manipulate and change our form in the afterlife, which can result in many extraordinary and fantastic experiences.

The communications passed to me by our ex-physical loved ones is that the sex act is considered relatively unimportant in the afterlife. Men and women do have the same feelings for one another, but without the biological urge. Telepathy creates such a transparency of the soul, that the most intimate expressions of love are given spontaneously and unconditionally. In effect, every act of communication is an act of love. In particular, the messages that are given to grieving partners on earth is that it’s okay to get on with your life and take a new partner if that is what makes you happy. Love in the afterlife comes from the soul, and our earthly concerns about physical sex are of little import to those in the spirit. Often, spirit communicators who may have been possessive while on earth now advise the person they loved that they should seek a new partner. It is not the sex act that matters, but the love that goes with it. They tell us that, in the afterlife, we learn to love unconditionally, and without covetousness or jealousy.

Each person will live in the afterlife dimensions in states that accord with their inner state of being. It is the place of the heart’s desire; but the heart of man, as Kipling says, is small. Given that a person can create a world according to his own creation, would it not be as limited as the man himself?

At first, you may delight in the fact that all of your earthly wishes can come true. You may at last feel that you have found yourself, but there is an aftermath to this pleasurable state for you will realize that these things are fundamentally selfish desires. The purpose of this phase of the afterlife journey is to bring an end to these personal emotions and desires so that you can move on to more permanent spiritual realizations. Eventually, these self-created enjoyments will lose their meaning and savor.

When you first arrive in the heavenly planes, your desires will still hold you. For example, the routines of eating and drinking are too firmly established to be removed instantaneously. You may also feel the need to sleep. In the initial stages of the afterlife world, you may do all of these things. For some, the earthly pleasures may still be foremost in their consciousness, whereas others may want to quickly progress to “higher” spiritual states. A point may come when you have a longing to forsake this first plane of the afterlife and seek a greater reality. You will read about these states of being later, but first we will consider the planes of the afterlife that retain time, space, and form.

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References and Works Cited

  • Hamilton-Parker, Craig (2010) What To Do When You Are Dead Sterling imprint Barnes & Noble ISBN 978-1-4027-7660-1 (Languages: English, Dutch, Portuguese) BUY THE BOOK HERE (New Edition Just Out!)
16 comments… add one
  • Nope Dec 13, 2016, 10:22 pm

    Humans are boring, this is why you guys keep coming back to reincarnate , sex is energy and bliss and well without the electro magnetic energy of sex the universe would never exist . This is why the others like the jinn and faeries don’t hang out with you guys as much because your simply too boring .
    Read William Mistele and Franz Bardon and you will get a quick understanding to know that SEX is life.

  • rita Sep 3, 2015, 6:32 am

    Hello another question if you don’t mind it’s said that in the afterlife you have no body does that mean we are invisible and if so how will I recognize family members who have passed before me?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Sep 21, 2015, 9:55 am

      You recognize a person in a dream and yet they have no physical body? It is the same in the spirit world.

  • rita Sep 3, 2015, 6:00 am

    Hello do animals have karmic situations to work through whilst on the physical plane, and if cats for example are born then die instantly, will this have been a need, they planed for themselves before incarnation.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Sep 23, 2015, 2:00 pm

      In my opinion, all things are subject to karma at all levels of existence from mineral, animal through man and even the gods and angels. Like humans some animals karma may require them to only have a very short earthly life. I have addressed this question in detail in my new book called ‘Messages from the Universe’.

  • Anthony Alfidi Aug 13, 2015, 9:08 pm

    Please provide objectively verifiable evidence that these claims are true. It is nice to engage in wishful thinking but claims of what is real require observable facts.

  • lemon Apr 14, 2015, 1:17 pm

    Why are some souls given a male body and some a female body? Why is the temporary human experience needed at all?

  • kc Jan 27, 2015, 8:49 pm

    Sex in the afterlife…. I don’t think so. Its physical… and while one may still have the desires, it will fall at the road side like all physical things to do with the Earthly body. Progression of ones soul will be the way forward if one chooses so.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:51 pm

      Nothing physical about sex. Matter does not experience. You do.

  • litespell May 5, 2014, 7:43 pm

    Simple answer, No. Sex is engendered by sexuality. Biology and physical pleasure combine to make sex a priority in physical life. There is no such imperative once the body is deceased. The incorporeal human form does not have a sexuality. They may appear as male or female in ‘contact’ with physical humans but this is only a matter of expedience.

    I would also caution against too much supposition of astral or ‘out of body’ experience. This is not same form as an incorporeal human form. Astral body (or form) is a limited combination of the physical personality and its higher senses. One may take a short swim on the ocean, but the experience is tenons compared to that of a creature which lives in it.

    • litespell May 12, 2014, 7:10 pm

      should be, ” the experience is *tenuous compared….”
      thank you

      • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:50 pm

        Incorporeal? Everyone who has visited the afterlife, be them OBE’ers or NDE’ers, describe things that are seen. If things are visual they are ‘corporeal’. Being a blob of spiritual light or a sensual human form does not matter. Both are equally ‘corporeal’ and just a matter of manifestation and expectation.

        Everything points to that we bring our mental stuff from here and manifest it in the afterlife in visual, corporeal form, according to our feelings and state of mind. If your consciousness in the afterlife can feel heavenly bliss, it follows that it can also feel sexual bliss. You go where your desires lead you.

        There is no such thing as a ‘physical’ emotion, exclusively tied to the world of physicality. Matter is inert, dead and does not experience. We as souls, consciousnesses, however, do.

  • NB Nov 16, 2012, 10:59 pm

    There exist no sex in the afterlife. When the body leaves the physical world the senses leave with the body. Sexual relations is connected to the physical body, not the etherial body.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:20 pm

      I disagree. What are sexual sensations? They are conscious experience. The body doesn’t feel or do anything. The nervous system just mediates stimuli between the physical and our consciousness that result in qualia. But the qualia is in our consciousness and where is the consciousness? We cannot find it, because it’s not here. It’s already in the spirit world, bulging into the physical.

      • Russo Lewis Sep 11, 2015, 4:14 pm

        Thank you. A well stated malleable theory. This is preferable to me than the “burn them at the stake’ hypocrisy of the ‘torch’ mob.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:27 pm

      I disagree. What are sexual sensations? They are conscious experience. The body doesn’t feel or do anything. The nervous system just mediates stimuli between the physical and our consciousness that result in qualia. But the qualia is in our consciousness and where is the consciousness? We cannot find it, because it’s not here. It’s already in the spirit world. Hence, if consciousness is the ability to experience sensation, we will be able to experience lust and sensuality also in the afterlife.

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