Is there sex in the afterlife?

Sex in the Afterlife?

Article by Craig Hamilton-Parker.

As you can see, even on these first levels of the afterlife, there are many things that differ from our own world. As you begin to spiritually progress, you will gradually drop many of the trappings that you once knew. For example, you may decide that eating is a waste of time, as there is no physical body needing fuel. Those who enjoyed good food and drink in their earthly lives may continue to indulge for a while. Eventually, they will see the foolishness of this activity. Without the impulses from the physical body, there is no hunger to satisfy.

Similarly, other bodily functions will fall by the wayside. What point is there of periodically going to the bathroom in the afterlife? At first, you may continue the routine as a habit but, as you acclimate to your new world, you will eventually see it as completely unnecessary, too. For some people, sex may be a harder drive to let go of. It involves psychological as well as physical drives. For many people, it may have been a very important part of their former lives. Others may have placed little importance upon it. In the end, it is still a bodily function. As your center of focus moves away from the physical illusion and towards the body of light, the question of sex in the afterlife becomes less important.

Spiritual Sex

You will discover that there are perhaps even more satisfying ways of expressing affection. Imagine the emotional satisfaction that might come with a complete telepathic blending of thought and feeling. It may sound a little like the sex scene from the movie the “Sleeper” with Woody Allen, but spiritual “sex” is even more pleasurable as it involves the whole being. Furthermore, it is not a possessive or exclusive act, as your interactions with everyone are based upon the transmission of love and energy.

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Bruce Moen and sex in the afterlife

Contemporary author Bruce Moen asks the question “Is there sex in the afterlife?” in some of his books. He raises some interesting ideas about whether there is sex in the afterlife. He pioneered a number of out-of-body travel techniques–based upon the methods of the Monroe Institute–that he claims puts him in contact with the afterlife world and other non-physical environments.

During some of these journeys, he describes how he has spiritual sex with his companion Sabrina. At first, their astral bonding is of the physical kind, that he knew on earth. However, it is suggested that they work with “sensing essence,” and learn to blend their astral bodies completely.

They experience strange states such as leaping into flight as butterflies and mating in the form of dolphins. Eventually, their light bodies intertwine as one. Moen describes it as an ecstatic experience: “We were spiraling around each other like strands of DNA. Immersed in feelings of loving acceptance as one being, we were enthralled with the dancing shades of pink, lavender, yellow, and blue swirling within us. All my internal resistance melted away in an indescribably powerful, heart charging blast of Pure Unconditional Loving Acceptance as these two beings rejoined into One.”

Is there sex in the afterlife?

Unlike the accounts given by Spiritualists, Moen’s accounts are hard to qualify as they are not generally substantiated by evidential mediumship and provable fact. Nonetheless, many of his ideas correlate with the nature of the afterlife as described by earlier traditions. The truth is that we can manipulate and change our form in the afterlife, which can result in many extraordinary and fantastic experiences.

The communications passed to me by our ex-physical loved ones is that the sex act is relatively unimportant in the afterlife. Men and women do have the same feelings for one another but without the biological urge. Telepathy creates such transparency of the soul, that the most intimate expressions of love are given spontaneously and unconditionally.

In effect, every act of communication is an act of love. In particular, the messages that are given to grieving partners on earth is that it’s okay to get on with your life. They often say to take a new partner if that is what makes you happy.

Love in the afterlife comes from the soul, and our earthly concerns about physical sex are of little importance to those in the spirit. Often, spirit communicators who may have been possessive while on earth now advise the person they loved that they should seek a new partner. It is not the sex act that matters, but the love that goes with it. They tell us that, in the afterlife, we learn to love unconditionally, and without covetousness or jealousy.

Afterlife Dimensions

Each person will live in the afterlife dimensions in states that accord with their inner state of being. It is the place of the heart’s desire; but the heart of man, as Kipling says, is small. Given that a person can create a world according to his own creation, would it not be as limited as the man himself?

At first, you may delight in the fact that all of your earthly wishes can come true. You may at last feel that you have found yourself, but there is an aftermath to this pleasurable state for you will realize that these things are fundamentally selfish desires.

The purpose of this phase of the afterlife journey is to bring an end to these personal emotions and desires so that you can move on to more permanent spiritual realizations. Eventually, these self-created enjoyments will lose their meaning and savor.

When you first arrive in the heavenly planes, your desires will still hold you. For example, the routines of eating and drinking are too firmly established to be removed instantaneously. You may also feel the need to sleep. In the first stages of the afterlife world, you may do these things. For some, the earthly pleasures may still be foremost in their consciousness, whereas others may want to quickly progress to “higher” spiritual states.

A point may come when you have a longing to forsake this first plane of the afterlife and seek a greater reality. You will read about these states of being later, but first, we will consider the planes of the afterlife that retain time, space, and form.



‘What to Do When You are Dead’ explores what happens after death and describes the world we will find there. There is more about the question Is there sex in the afterlife? addressed by this article. It is a powerful book that draws on near-death experiences, spiritual traditions as well as the medium’s direct experiences.

 References and Works Cited

  • Hamilton-Parker, Craig (2010) What To Do When You Are Dead Sterling imprint Barnes & Noble ISBN 978-1-4027-7660-1 (Languages: English, Dutch, Portuguese) Includes a section about is there sex in the afterlife.  BUY THE BOOK HERE (New Edition Just Out!)
21 comments… add one
  • Chris Steele Sep 8, 2019, 5:54 pm

    Why then do we have dreams that include sex, if sex is “a bodily function”? In dreams we may dream we are having sex with someone then wake up to find our physical body has responded in tandem with our spiritual body (i.e our dream body). Therefore I have difficulty believing sex is not important in the after-life because we go there every night!

  • Psychonaut Jul 31, 2019, 4:17 pm

    I do agree with you. Miserable life of forever alone seldom deserves an afterlife that is like one long orgy of sensual delights. It’s only logical it be like that. In the afterlife, we can change our appearance and sex if we wish, and as souls, we are drawn to the realms we find alluring. According to the Jurgen Ziewe, the afterlife not least has a huge compensatory function, and this would just be another feature of it.

  • Channeling Bigfoot May 16, 2018, 3:47 pm

    Sexual urges are energetic not biological. A bunch of atoms made of matter can only be used as a channel for your non physical energies. The nerve bundles in your sexual organs respond to stimuli from sexual energy, some call the energy jing. As sexual energy is energetic sex is possible in heaven. For some reason some of you do not believe this. Ever heard of ghosts having sex with humans? That’s enough evidence. The logical brain (neocortex) makes people draw 3d dimensional conclusions.

  • Danielle Apr 4, 2018, 5:19 pm

    Opinions are just that unless you’ve experienced sex in the afterlife personally- my love passed years ago and it has been my experience that he is very sexual from the other side. So that’s a ‘yes’

  • todd wiseman Sep 25, 2017, 8:49 pm

    YES !! There has to be some hope, only a sadistic negative thinker would say otherwise. There has to be some hope for those who are afflicted and cursed with ”virginity” while they were stuck on earth. I believe we will be able to manipulate our higher dimensional energy into having a solid form of such, and in fact furthermore I think the universe will give special attention to those who never got to do that on earth. To make up for it, I know once I get to astral I have a whole list of girls I plan to make out with all the way so as to get experience and much needed self confidence for the next carnation cycle. I am never going to struggle and suffer through 37 years of virginity ever again. Whatever karmic debt was incurred, it is paid in full! My soul can move on, to making out with girls.

  • Nope Dec 13, 2016, 10:22 pm

    Humans are boring, this is why you guys keep coming back to reincarnate , sex is energy and bliss and well without the electro magnetic energy of sex the universe would never exist . This is why the others like the jinn and faeries don’t hang out with you guys as much because your simply too boring .
    Read William Mistele and Franz Bardon and you will get a quick understanding to know that SEX is life.

  • rita Sep 3, 2015, 6:32 am

    Hello another question if you don’t mind it’s said that in the afterlife you have no body does that mean we are invisible and if so how will I recognize family members who have passed before me?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Sep 21, 2015, 9:55 am

      You recognize a person in a dream and yet they have no physical body? It is the same in the spirit world.

  • rita Sep 3, 2015, 6:00 am

    Hello do animals have karmic situations to work through whilst on the physical plane, and if cats for example are born then die instantly, will this have been a need, they planed for themselves before incarnation.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Sep 23, 2015, 2:00 pm

      In my opinion, all things are subject to karma at all levels of existence from mineral, animal through man and even the gods and angels. Like humans some animals karma may require them to only have a very short earthly life. I have addressed this question in detail in my new book called ‘Messages from the Universe’.

  • Anthony Alfidi Aug 13, 2015, 9:08 pm

    Please provide objectively verifiable evidence that these claims are true. It is nice to engage in wishful thinking but claims of what is real require observable facts.

  • lemon Apr 14, 2015, 1:17 pm

    Why are some souls given a male body and some a female body? Why is the temporary human experience needed at all?

  • kc Jan 27, 2015, 8:49 pm

    Sex in the afterlife…. I don’t think so. Its physical… and while one may still have the desires, it will fall at the road side like all physical things to do with the Earthly body. Progression of ones soul will be the way forward if one chooses so.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:51 pm

      Nothing physical about sex. Matter does not experience. You do.

  • litespell May 5, 2014, 7:43 pm

    Simple answer, No. Sex is engendered by sexuality. Biology and physical pleasure combine to make sex a priority in physical life. There is no such imperative once the body is deceased. The incorporeal human form does not have a sexuality. They may appear as male or female in ‘contact’ with physical humans but this is only a matter of expedience.

    I would also caution against too much supposition of astral or ‘out of body’ experience. This is not same form as an incorporeal human form. Astral body (or form) is a limited combination of the physical personality and its higher senses. One may take a short swim on the ocean, but the experience is tenons compared to that of a creature which lives in it.

    • litespell May 12, 2014, 7:10 pm

      should be, ” the experience is *tenuous compared….”
      thank you

      • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:50 pm

        Incorporeal? Everyone who has visited the afterlife, be them OBE’ers or NDE’ers, describe things that are seen. If things are visual they are ‘corporeal’. Being a blob of spiritual light or a sensual human form does not matter. Both are equally ‘corporeal’ and just a matter of manifestation and expectation.

        Everything points to that we bring our mental stuff from here and manifest it in the afterlife in visual, corporeal form, according to our feelings and state of mind. If your consciousness in the afterlife can feel heavenly bliss, it follows that it can also feel sexual bliss. You go where your desires lead you.

        There is no such thing as a ‘physical’ emotion, exclusively tied to the world of physicality. Matter is inert, dead and does not experience. We as souls, consciousnesses, however, do.

  • NB Nov 16, 2012, 10:59 pm

    There exist no sex in the afterlife. When the body leaves the physical world the senses leave with the body. Sexual relations is connected to the physical body, not the etherial body.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:20 pm

      I disagree. What are sexual sensations? They are conscious experience. The body doesn’t feel or do anything. The nervous system just mediates stimuli between the physical and our consciousness that result in qualia. But the qualia is in our consciousness and where is the consciousness? We cannot find it, because it’s not here. It’s already in the spirit world, bulging into the physical.

      • Russo Lewis Sep 11, 2015, 4:14 pm

        Thank you. A well stated malleable theory. This is preferable to me than the “burn them at the stake’ hypocrisy of the ‘torch’ mob.

    • Psychonaut Mar 15, 2015, 1:27 pm

      I disagree. What are sexual sensations? They are conscious experience. The body doesn’t feel or do anything. The nervous system just mediates stimuli between the physical and our consciousness that result in qualia. But the qualia is in our consciousness and where is the consciousness? We cannot find it, because it’s not here. It’s already in the spirit world. Hence, if consciousness is the ability to experience sensation, we will be able to experience lust and sensuality also in the afterlife.

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