What Happens to Children When They Die?

A Place in Heaven for Children

Article from my book about what happens to the souls of children when they die. Read about how the infant soul grows to become an adult and how a child will continue to know its mother. Please leave your comments at the bottom of this article.

Children’s Heaven

One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, All good children go to heaven. –Traditional Nursery Rhyme

When life has served its purpose, death must come. None of us can escape this fact. Even the holy men, saints, and saviors must die. When death comes it shows that the individual is ready to enjoy all the wonderful riches and beauty that the spirit world has to offer. There is nothing to fear in death. Death is the great liberator that brings freedom. We rejoice when babies come into the world, yet many cry in the world of spirit when babies are to be born in our world. Similarly, there may be weeping when someone dies in our world, but there is rejoicing as they enter the sphere of the afterlife.

Losing someone you love is always a terrible thing. No matter how philosophical we are about it and no matter how much we are convinced that there is an afterlife, it is always a dreadful blow. But the hardest loss to bear of all is surely the loss of a child. There is often a lump in my throat and sometimes tears in my eyes when I do mediumship for bereaved parents. Mediumship in these circumstances can also be quite difficult because the child in the spirit does not have the concentration or understanding to work with a medium. There are occasions when it is impossible to make the link despite my best efforts and the good will of the sitter. Until the grief has been healed, it is very hard sometimes to give the mother her sought-after link with her child.

What Happens to Children When They Die?What Happens To Children When They Die?

Fortunately, on most occasions the spirit child is able to communicate despite the walls of grief and despair built around the parents. This is usually because more experience spirit communicators are helping them. Sometimes it is the spirit guides that do the work, but on most occasions I have noticed that a deceased relative is aiding them.

This does not mean to say that all of their time in the spirit world is spent with, for example, a deceased grandmother. The communicating spirit lets us know that he or she is with the child but the child will also experience a wonderful world especially designed for children. The medium Doris Stokes, who herself lost a baby, often spoke of these children as the lucky ones. Unlike us, they do not have to suffer the problems of life. They come to us for a short while, experience our love, then return again to a better place. These children are well-developed souls who need only a short contact with the earth in order for them to spiritually progress. As Doris often said, “They are souls that kiss the earth.”


In the afterlife, children naturally share the love of their grandparents and other spirit people who love them. They also have the guiding hand of their guardian angel to guide them. However, there are many activities for them in the next life designed to quicken their spirit and guide them towards higher spirituality.

I spoke earlier about how we can assume any age that we want to when in the spirit. May of the souls of children have also lived many lives before and they, like us, will have a long history of life behind them. However, they continue their heavenly life in the same form as they had on earth. They remain as children and grow in the spirit. Naturally, this state will not last indefinitely but these souls need to experience innocence while in the ethereal states. The life review is unnecessary for many of these children. A short earthly life is the catalyst for a childhood in the spirit.

When a child shows the spirit via mediumship, they appear to the medium as the parents knew them at the time they died. This helps the parents to recognize the person being talked about. Once this is established, they sometimes then give a description of the person they have grown into. The parents will also recognize that this description is often as they would have expected. For example, the spirit “adult” will explain that they have spent their time involved with music. The adults may have noticed, before the child died, that their natural tendency was toward this field of study, and it rarely surprises them when told about these things.

Babies grow in the afterlife. According to many spirit guides, and including my own, the soul enters a mother’s womb not at the moment of conception but at the time of the quickening. It is often my difficult duty to explain that the soul of an aborted child continues to live in the next life. Rarely is there any finger-wagging or chastisement by the spirit communicator for what has been done. The child, who by this time has grown or has been brought forward by an adult spirit communicator, understands the circumstances that resulted in the termination. In most instances an abortion is not something a woman enters into lightly. It is a tremendously anguished decision to be made and some women carry a burden of guilt throughout their lives. The spirit people understand these painful feelings and do not stand in judgment. Instead, they reassure us that the soul of the baby continues and that the mother need not feel guilt. If there is an instinctive sense of love, then the soul of the parents and the child will be linked. Often parents may feel the soul of the child around them during earthly life. And they will certainly know the child when they enter the spirit worlds themselves.


There are many places in the afterlife that the children will enjoy. We are told that there are nurseries where the spirit people, who devote their time to the care of the young, tend the babies. Here walk many angels who help with the development of these innocent souls. There is great love in this place and the children are made aware of their earthly mother and family and are able to share their thoughts and feelings. Indeed they are bound to the family’s group soul by karma and past life experiences together. (This will be explained in more detail later)

Education in the afterlife is spiritual rather than practical. Children are taught the importance of the development of the spirit and are taught human values. This is an important part of the souls progress that can only be experienced while living the life of a child in the spirit. The primal form, that I spoke about earlier, is temporarily suspended so that the soul can learn the lessons that can only be understood while in a state of innocence. This takes place in areas of the halls of learning that are designated for the spiritual development of children.

What Happens To Children When They Die? The above is an extract from my book What to do when you are dead. (Sterling Publishing ISBN 978-1-4027-7660-1) Buy from my psychic bookshops.

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References and Works Cited

Hamilton-Parker, Craig (2010) What To Do When You Are Dead Sterling imprint Barnes & Noble ISBN 978-1-4027-7660-1 (Languages: English, Dutch, Portuguese) BUY THE BOOK HERE

38 comments… add one
  • Princess Jun 9, 2019, 7:23 am

    Hi on the 19 April 2019 I gave birth to my daughter Khwezi. She was preterm but she fights for her life she was okay and growing well over the night. I received a call telling me that she’s very sick on the 14 May 2019. It is really hard for me I can’t sleep thinking about and every time I cried for her. Is she is okay there?

  • Colette leigh May 12, 2019, 12:26 pm

    Our little granddaughter was stillborn at 26 weeks – is she okay

    • Jennifer Chaplin Jul 29, 2019, 11:25 am

      Hello on 23 June 2019 l gave birth to our son named Sonny. He was preterm 24 wks and was NICU for 8 days he was so strong & brave to put up a big fight! But sadly they had to turn the machines off & let him die place on my heart. I really missing Sonny just want to hold him again. And know if his okay.

  • Mary Apr 23, 2019, 1:00 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. Between the dream of your mother holding the baby boy and your daughter’s seemingly intuitive reaction to that dream, I believe the message is that this destiny of infancy death was strong for your baby son. I believe the dream was given to you so that you would know that the soul of your son was safe in your mother’s arms. It also means that since it was known beforehand it was simply his time – short though it was. These things are a mystery. Again – I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • precious Apr 5, 2019, 7:35 am

    Hi, I am a grieving mother of my two-day-old son’s death but a few months ago before I delivered my son. I dreamt of my deceased mother holding a baby and I asked her what is its gender. She said it was a boy. I didn’t know the gender of my son until a few weeks later after that dream I had an ultrasound and there it was a boy. I was excited to tell the good news to my 11 yr.old daughters. About that dream and the result of the ultrasound but she asked why is her grandma holding our baby? she was worried that her grandma would take away the baby from us and now that two days after I gave birth, my son died. Please enlighten me to that dream I dreamt a few months before I gave birth and to the connection of my deceased mother to this thing.

  • Samantha Feb 27, 2019, 4:09 am

    Hi! I’m a 14-year-old girl and I have a twin sister. We were both recently informed that we actually had s triplet in the womb, although complications sadly led to a miscarriage. I am very eager to know if we will ever meet in the afterlife and if he would grow up there as well. I also know that this was very hard on my parents and if he is watching over them or us at all. Thank you so much

  • Maria I Rubio Dec 26, 2018, 11:48 pm

    I lost my daughter 6 month ago she was 3 and I miss her so much I have always wondered if she be alone or with great Grandma . I have dreams of her of me hugging or holding her I don’t know if it her or it me just missing her

  • David Paytas Nov 27, 2018, 5:11 am

    Hi Craig and thank you in advance if you hopefully choose to respond to my post. My youngest son, Michael died of a drug overdose on Nov. 27, 2017, at the young age of 24. Michael was a great kid and loved by everyone who knew him. His addiction to heroin occurred when he joked a joint unknowingly laced with heroin at a campus party. He had been clean for almost a year and was 2 weeks away from graduating Temple University. Michael’s grades were so good that he was awarded a Posthumous Degree. Tomorrow is the 1st anniversary of his passing and I am a complete wreck! The Long Island Medium show was on TV. She did a reading for a woman who lost her son to an overdose and the mother felt a lot better after her son spoke to her through the Medium. This led me to search and find your youtube channel. Michael lived with me full time and we were extremely close and so in tune with each other. I have received NO sign since he passed. Can a Psychic Medium help me? T.Y., David

  • Vineeta Anne Whyte Oct 18, 2018, 6:23 am

    Not true, aborted babies are with you all the time and they are sad in spirit and miss the mother hence why they never leave, no matter how much the mother encourages them to cross over. They can however make themselves useful by acting as a spirit guide and sending you messages, reminders, love, sympathy, empathy, understanding. They also keep you company and provide comfort.
    Miscarried babies (in my experience) go straight to heaven and visit ocassionally.

  • Maria Oct 26, 2017, 6:07 pm

    Hello, I have been curious on something. Years ago due to a complicated situation I was in, I had an abortion. I am not proud to say it, but reality is that I did. I always felt in my heart that the child was a little girl. Since then, I have had so many dreams of a little girl who was mine. I always longed to have a little girl in my life. I have one 25 yr old son, but never had another baby again. Well fast forward to 3 years ago…. my brother and his wife had a little girl named Mila. Immediately I had a very close bond with her. The past 3 years we have gotten so close, she is very drawn to me. I spend lots of time with her . I have developed such a strong love for her as if she is mine. She loves me the same in return. She looks just like me, she has the same characteristics as me and same personality. People say she is the spitting image of me. Our birthdays are also a few days apart. I see so much of me in her. I love her so much , words cannot explain it. A week ago out of the blue, she told me that she died a long time ago and she went through a dark tunnel and then saw a bright light and then she saw Jesus wearing a long white dress. I cannot get it out of my mind. I am starting to question that if maybe she is the soul of the unborn child I aborted years ago. Can this be possible?

  • barry waterfield Sep 23, 2017, 6:20 am

    I live in England and I am not well informed on American news but recently ( over the past year ) we have been hearing about an 11 year old Minnesota boy who was murdered twenty seven years ago, and has just been found buried in a woodland grave not far from his home. As it turns out, he was shot dead within an hour or so of having been abducted, but his mother has by all accounts been convinced, all this time, that he would one day return home.

    I believe in the world of the spirit very strongly and this boy must be somewhere, but could you explain for me, why he has not made contact with his mother , or someone in the family, to try and stop all this prolonged heartache and give them peace.The only thing I can think of is that they somehow blocked him out with their determined efforts to keep him alive. Surely mother at least, must have sensed he was dead.Perhaps she hardened her heart to the thought, or , could he still be sleeping after such a violent death.Time is irrelevant after all.We did have a similar case in England many years ago but in that instance mother seemed to know her child was dead.

    I have avoided naming the family in this case because I didn’t know if you had rules on about that, but the case is famous so I hope you will realize who I am talking about.

  • Sonia Feb 10, 2017, 3:04 pm

    Hi I lost my son on day 6th after his birth because of his brain injury. After his death, a few day later, I had a dream of a woman handing over my son to me she said he is ok you can take him home. And I carried my son he said to me ‘mama’. Does this mean that the same spirit is going to come back into my life?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Mar 20, 2017, 12:59 pm

      There is no way of telling if this is a spirit message or prophecy. It could be your own thoughts or it could be something else. Maybe other messages will be given to you by way of confirmation in due course. Wait for a message but do not ask the medium the question directly or it could confuse things.

  • Nqobile Precious Jan 24, 2017, 3:53 pm

    Last year June I lost my mother and after her funeral she came to me telling me she’s not dead and now I’m worried cause in Africa witch doctors sometimes take spirit of that person who we think is dead and make that person to do her dirty works, so I’m worried if is she in the spiritual world or not. How do I know if she’s ok or she in the spiritual world? I’m from south Africa and I’m a sangoma (traditional doctor) I can speak with other spirits but not her. I just want to hear your views please help.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Feb 6, 2017, 4:42 pm

      The spirit goes to heaven straight away so have no fear. The witch doctors can only work with a dead person’s etheric shell, that is the remaining life force that was once part of the physical body. The spirit that is your loved one is no longer connected to this jin. She will be safely in the spirit world have no fear.

  • t bolton Jul 13, 2016, 7:15 pm

    When you see these paranormal programs on TV and there are child spirits why are they still on earth and not in the spirit world? And also I have a about Doris Stokes she was found to be a fraud and collected info before the show so she is not credible.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Aug 5, 2016, 11:55 am

      TV shows are mainly made for entertainment so the truth gets lost. A spooky child ghost – or better still mad looking twins – makes for good visually exciting TV. Doris Stokes’ book about spirit children was very good – particularity as she’d lost her own child I believe. I met her and her husband a number of times as will vouch for her honesty. The mistake she made was to invite people who had visited her for private sitting to visit her theater events. On a few occasions she gave new messages and evidence to these people which I think was a legitimate mistake but one the press jumped on as plants in the audience. She was of average intelligence so may not have understood that this would undermine her credibility. All mediums have the same problem. With my own public work I point out to the audience if someone has had a message from me before and I’ve been strongly drawn to them. Many don’t do this.

  • Lisi Jun 27, 2016, 12:10 pm

    I had an abortion 35 years ago at about 10 weeks. I got married years later and had a miscarriage. I then got pregnant and expected the soul that had been aborted to come back. Another of my children died a few months ago and I have been told by a medium that she is with the soul of a baby I lost many years ago. Do you think it is the miscarried or the aborted baby? Why did he not come back when I got pregnant again? Do souls sometimes come into the mother’s womb knowing they will be aborted and then spend their lives in heaven?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Aug 5, 2016, 1:05 pm

      This is a big topic that cannot really be answered in a simple comment tag. I would suggest you read the books by the spirit guide Silver Birch who spoke at lengthen about this topic though the medium Maurice Barbanell.

  • HN Jun 19, 2016, 5:37 pm

    I have a quick question: if a mother miscarries her child, would the child appear to her as a foetus or as a newborn?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Jun 27, 2016, 10:51 am

      An ‘adult’ spirit communicator would pass on the information and probably also explain that the baby will grow in the spirit world. The general belief is that the spirit of the baby enters the mother’s womb at the point of the quickening though some mediums differ on this view.

  • Ruta Faamausili Jun 2, 2016, 12:04 pm

    Today I dreamed of my son name Nathan, he passed away in 2003 at the age of 4 yrs old. I have had may dreams of him since his passing and I would wake feeling peaceful, but not this time. What has me worried is that Nathan was still at the age he was when he passed away. He seemed to be kept in some kind of place for special children but not mistreated and in the dream I was trying to free him and take him home with me. This was the first dream I had with him that I (in the dream) thought he was really alive and with me. Should I be worried?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Jun 14, 2016, 4:46 pm

      To me this appears to be a normal dream in which you are trying to deal with the emotions and pain of losing a child. However when the spirits of children communicate through a medium they do usually show themselves at the age that you remember them though they will all grow in spirit. But even this idea is hard for us to understand as time in spirit is different to what we know on Earth.

    • Dionne R Smith Jul 6, 2016, 2:31 pm

      Oh wow! I also had a child who died at 4 and she was in this place that looked like a daycare of some sort. It felt so real. I also asked if she could come home with me but the woman or Angel in charge told me that she could not come with me. She was around a number of other children and she also showed me her room. Wow. Our dream was so similar, which makes me believe that that place was real.

      • Robert Aug 5, 2016, 12:51 pm

        My son Austin has been gone for almost two years now. I see signs from him every now and then, but I haven’t dreamed about him. Does anyone know why this may be? I miss him so much, and I just want to know he’s OK.

  • RJ Mar 30, 2016, 6:48 am

    I was pregnant with twins and had serious complications and lost one of my babies. My son is now 2 1/2 and has been playing with his ‘friend’ for a few months. We have had doors slamming, things being knocked over, drawers opening, etc and my son told us it was ‘Kyle’. Kyle was one of the names we chose for them and only their dad and I knew this. My son told me he looks like me, he’s tall like his dad, and he knows him from my tummy. I’m having a hard time coming to grips with this. Can the spirit of a miscarried child stay and interact with the family? And why would they appear as young adult rather than a child? As much as I want to believe and embrace this I’m not sure what to think.

  • Sara Mar 24, 2016, 7:03 pm

    Hi, I lost my baby in my womb and I want to know if we will meet in afterlife? I think about my baby every day and I need to know if he/she is okay and why did my baby leave me when he/she was very much wanted and loved.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Apr 7, 2016, 11:40 am

      Some of the trance teachings of Spiritualism claim that babies who die in the womb or pass during pregnancy (after the quickening when the soul joins the womb) are advanced souls who do not have a karmic bond with the earth and are therefore able to return to the blissful spiritual realms by only ‘kissing the Earth’. When you go to the spirit world you will be reunited with your child and you will immediately know one another.

  • George bell Feb 1, 2016, 2:23 am

    When the time comes to move to “The other side” what do we do as spirits. Walk, float, eat, sleep, talk?

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Mar 22, 2016, 2:47 pm

      It all depends on how spiritually advanced the person is. Most people will experience a world very similar to the world they knew on Earth. Some will know the next world as a world of light and others will go even beyond the idea of light into full consciousness of the One. Check out my book ‘What to do when you are dead’ in which I explore these ideas in detail.

  • Anna Frances Glemao Jan 18, 2016, 9:11 pm

    We lost our 6 years old nephew on the day of his birthday last Dec. 29, 2015. It was a tragic accident where he bled to death. This brought devastation and our hearts are in pain and guilt with our loss. We wished we could have prevented the accident. Is he watching over us and can he still feel the unconditional love we have for him?Will he feel the pain or would he still remember how he died? We misses him so dearly.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Jan 21, 2016, 2:07 pm

      Of course he will still remember you and will be aware of all of you from his new vantage point in the spirit world. I hope my site inspires you to get proof of this through Spiritualism, a sitting or in our supportive community.

  • Antoinette Nov 9, 2015, 6:19 am

    I lost my son Jayden after 3 days of birth. I was so hurt even now the wound is still fresh. I always asked my hubby if our Jaydee is seeing us. Thanks to the article, some of my questions have been answered. I now know that wherever he is, he is in good hands.

  • Robert Keith Oct 29, 2015, 7:27 pm

    My son Austin passed away from brain cancer on December 5th, 2014. He was only 6 years old. I miss him dearly, as can be expected I guess. I find myself still worrying about him, just wanting to know that he is OK. I also wish I knew why he had to be taken so soon. Do we meet our children in the afterlife once we pass on? Thanks for your help.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Nov 9, 2015, 11:59 am

      Yes they do survive death and it is natural to worry about him even though in your mind you know he is safe your heart will still grieve. A really comforting early Spiritualist book called Raymond by Sir Oliver Lodge may give you some solace and comfort. You can get it on Amazon here.

  • Oana Oct 12, 2015, 9:31 pm

    I recently lost my 6 days old baby girl. She was a full term, good weight baby but had what was supposed to be a minor problem with her intestine. Immediately after birth she had surgery. Recovery was a little bit more difficult compared to other children with same problem but doctors were happy. All of a sudden in her fifth day of life she became unwell, entered into shock and could not be resuscitate. She was took out of machines that kept her alive after 12 hours of unsuccessful resuscitation. I liked your article about the spirit of children after death, but I wish to know more why she left, whether she is calm and well and if she knows how much we love her (being the fact that if was unexpected and traumatic death). Thank you again for your article.

    • Craig Hamilton-Parker Oct 26, 2015, 1:04 pm

      I’m not sure I can answer the why she left in a short comment like this but be reassured that she will know your love and the unexpected and traumatic death will not prevent your loving thoughts touching her soul. She will always know that you are her mother.

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